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Masturbating is normal

Masturbating is normal

Masturbating is normal. Did you masturbate recently? You are not the only one. Most of us masturbate on a more or less regular basis. There are a lot of common words used for masturbating. Jerk-off, finger fuck, treat yourself, spanking the monkey, etc. There are also a number of ways to masturbate.

The most common way is to use your fingers or your hand. Different objects around the house can also be used like a hand shower or a pillow for example.

Belladot’s sex toys have been carefully tested so that they are safe to use and give you maximum stimulance.

For women there are a number if dildos and vibrators to choose from. For example Belladot Bodil stimulates both the G-spot and the A-spot, Belladot Greta is small and convinient and Belladot Vilma stimulates both the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time.
All three are waterproof and you can bring them with you in the shower. Find more products under “toys” on our website.

You are probably aware of the fact that it is important to listen to you body and it’s signals to avoid, for instance, stress. Masturbation and orgasm is a great way to relax yourself. It releases hormons that make you feel good. Some say that your memory and ability to concentrate are increased. It can also have a dampening effect on anxiety and stress. This is true about sex in general but the advantage of masturbation is that you can decide when and where you want to do it.

Having well trained pelvic muscles enhances your lust and kan give stonger orgasms. The pelvic trainer Britt from Belladot helps you find the right muscles and they can also help you get a better masturbation experience.

Read more about training those muscle groups under the topic “Incontinence for women – train your pelvic muscles”.

Masturbating together with, or in front of your partner is an excellent way to get to know each others bodies and find out what makes you aroused. It’s also a great way to have sex together if you for different reasons aren’t able to have intercourse.

Research has shown that those who have their first orgasm through masturbation have better sex in a couple situation. Those who masturbate on a regular basis keep their lust for sex later in life and they also keep the lust alive even when they don’t have a partner.

Feeling lust, masturbating and enjoying sex without shame is something that should be a right for everyone. Still there are a lot of taboo’s around satisfying yourself sexually. Why does so many of us feel it’s hard to talk about masturbation? To change basic values takes generations and from a historic perspective, masturbating has been taboo.

 

A History of taboo

The latin word masturbation comes from the words “manus” (hand) and “stuprum” (desecrate). Even deep down in the 20th century masturbation was viewed upon as shameful, harmful and un-normal.
The masturbater was portraied as pale, sick and weak. Shame is often born early in life and will hamper us even if the memories are gone.

When a child learns to walk he or she is cheered on by adults. Masturbation on the other hand is treated with silence and insecurity, sometimes even harsh words.

 

Still taboo

A lot of people who doesn’t have a partner feel that they are failures when they have to masturbate to get satisfaction. Those who have a partner can be ashamed and keeps it to themselves. It’s important to be able to tell your partner how you feel and think instead of beeing alone with this secret. Someone who finds out that their partner is masturbating might feel inadecuate, unattractive and turn this into thinking that he or she is not enough since the partner masturbates.

The truth is that the lust for masturbation doesn’t have to be connected to bad sex with your partner. Instead research has shown that people who masturbate are more satisfied with their partnersex and with sex in general.

A lot of men enjoy using the vibrators from Belladot. Belladot Bertil is a vibrating penis-ring that enhances and prolongs your erection. As a bonus it has a small ball that can be turned towards the testicles or towards your partners clitoris.

A lot of people ask the question about how often it’s normal to masturbate. My reply is “as often as you feel the lust for it”. If the masturbation becomes compulsive or creates an obstruction for your everyday life you should seek help. The masturbation is not a problem but the “compulsiveness” is. It shouldn’t hurt to masturbate nor should it injure your genitales or intimate areas. Lubrication enhances the pleasure and reduces the friction and tear.

Belladot has both waterbased and silicone lubricants, with or without scent. All of them are safe to use with a condom.

If you are having trouble reaching orgasm with a partner, masturbation and exploring your own sexuality can be helpful.

Read more under the topics about  “Difficult to reach orgasm?” and ”Lust and sensuality”.

 

“Orgasmera mera” is an informative book by Ylva Franzén which I bought directly from the author during my sexologist training. I asked her to sign and she wrote the following: “Many beautiful orgasms, Sylvia!” Now I wish you the same!

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